image empathic broken crystalThis is addressing the second part of a question posed to me (the first part of the question is found here). The questioner asked:

Sometimes [crystals]  jump from my hand or I drop another crystal on them accidentally, etc. I am brand new at this and don’t know how to proceed. Thank you” – K. S.


If you live with crystals for long, there will unfortunately come a day when breakage occurs. Either by dropping them to the floor or onto a hard surface, or even as in the case mentioned above, dropping something on them or clanking them against one another. It happens.

It’s sad and usually heartbreaking for me, especially if it is a favorite crystal. We never want to cause harm or injury to those we love.

The positive note: there is almost always a lesson to be learned in the breaking.

Many times, a “flawless” crystal will be dropped or dinged while in the care of a person, and the person usually feels terrible about this, that it is somehow their fault and that they have “ruined” an otherwise “perfect” crystal.

The message I have received from the Crystal People over and over again, is that more often than not, the crystal has chosen to be damaged in order to assist the person with a lesson on self love and acceptance (and forgiveness!).

empathic broken crystalA further bit of proof of this is that not every crystal which is dropped breaks, and not every crystal which is broken has been dropped.

What does this mean? It is important to note that Empathic crystals bring out compassionate feelings in us. (Empathic crystals are crystals which are chipped, broken or damaged.) When we see a chipped or damaged crystal, we tend to show it love. Even more so if the “damage” is caused by our own hand. The crystal picks up this empathy and amplifies it.

The empathy continues from there on! Remember, a crystal will encounter many people during its lifespan. Each person that expresses compassion for the damage on the crystal increases the empathetic energy of the crystal. It is a cycle that builds and repeats.

Therefore, if the unfortunate happens and you do break a favorite crystal, work with this special empathic energy.

In any circumstance in which you need to bring compassion into the mix, you might work with an Empathic (chipped, broken or damaged) crystal. If it is a crystal which has broken in your care, meditate on the type of crystal, the circumstances, and how it makes you feel that this happened.

Do you need to practice forgiveness of self? Come to terms with imperfections? Learn to accept perceived flaws?

I usually find more often than not that the compassion and forgiveness needed is toward self. Again, especially if the “damage” is caused by you. I tend to get hyper judgmental and hard on myself in these situations and it is hard to forgive myself! I find it is easy to feel compassion for and to forgive others for their mistakes, but we are much harder on ourselves. We expect to be perfect or not “flawed”.

empathic broken crystalIf we work with an Empathic crystal, we can see how much we still love this crystal, not simply in spite of its damage, but a lot of times, because of it. We are able to see what this crystal has gone through in its lifetime and  still it perseveres.

The crystal doesn’t hold any ill will toward us for its change in shape and or resulting flaws, chips or dings. It still just as happily receives and returns our love and acceptance. It is still beautiful and worthy. It isn’t sad or angry at us for “breaking” it, nor should we be angry at ourselves!

In the creation of the damage, the Empathic (chipped, broken or damaged) crystal helps to remind us to be forgiving of our mistakes. In the actual damage, it reminds us to apply the same feelings of love, acceptance and compassion for our own perceived “flaws”.

So! Don’t feel all is lost if you damage a favored crystal, see the lesson in it, forgive yourself, love your crystal MORE and move on!

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About Genn

Genn John has been acting as the legs for the Crystal People as the Keeper at Arkansas Crystal Works, an internet-based source for crystals and crystal knowledge, since 1995. Having accepted the honor to be their voice as well, she is the author of Understanding The Crystal People: A Handbook for Lightworkers; a crystal reference book for people who desire to fully understand their connection to the crystal kingdom and who wish to enhance their working knowledge of these majestic beings. Genn has also published a 4 part series of coloring books which are a useful tool for anyone with an interest in learning the anatomical structures of quartz crystals. It features precise, extraordinary hand-drawn designs crafted especially for easy coloring and interactive study. Find the store and more at, or her blog at To connect: email -, facebook -, Instagram - gennjohn or Twitter @GennJohn.

38 Responses to CRYSTALS WHICH ARE BROKEN IN OUR CARE: what it means

  1. Becca says:

    I’ve been carrying 2 rose quartz crystals everywhere with me for the last few months in an attempt to heal from a breakup and manifest something new. I’ve just been taking about a new love interest with a friend and whilst doing so dropped one of them and chipped the corner. Do you believe this is a sign to steer clear?

    • Genn says:

      Hey Becca! Thanks for your question! To be honest, you’re the only one who can judge that. The crystal chipping could mean many things, you will need to meditate with the crystals and see if you get any messages. I can’t say whether it is a “sign” for you with this new love interest or not, but one sense I get is the fact that you are recently “chipped” yourself and to remind yourself to take care of yourself and your possible “rough edges”. If it makes you feel like it IS a sign to steer clear, perhaps you had the thought before you ever chipped anything (doubts about this person)? Time for some inner questioning. I would suggest meditating with these stones and see what you get. Best of luck!

  2. Rayne says:

    So, I just bought a labradorite stone. It was the second day that I had bought it, and I was holding it in my hand and admiring it when it dropped. It broke into two pieces and now I do not know what to do with it. Can someone help me? Please……

    • Genn says:

      Hello Rayne! I’m sorry to hear that your stone broke, it’s never fun when that happens. As I say in the blog post, sometimes it happens for a reason (to help you honor your own chips, dings and “broken areas”) etc. Depending on how it broke, you might want to hold the pieces together when you work with it or maybe work with the pieces separately. Have you considered holding one piece in each hand? Or, if it is for simply raising the vibrations or for aesthetic purposes (not an active working stone), I have some that are broken and I simply put the pieces together where ever it is being displayed. Just remember when you go to pick it up that it is in two parts so it doesn’t drop and break again. Just some options.

  3. Mickey says:

    Thank you for this article! I’m just starting to get into crystals and I bought a few carnelian crystals (among others) to help cleanse the energies of past relationships. I bought them on Sunday and since then I’ve lost a smaller carnelian stone and just shattered a rather expensive larger polished carnelian stone when it slid off my lap. I’m heartbroken about this and can’t possibly believe that this is a coincidence. Do you have any guidance or suggestions about this?

    • Genn says:

      Hey Mickey! Thanks for your question! The first thing that came to mind for me was that perhaps the carnelians are mirroring your relationships that you are cleansing (one disappeared, and the other, which was highly valued, shattered )… do they mimic your relationship energies that you are cleansing? Perhaps the stones are helping you to cleanse the energies more deeply and even literally. Does this resonate? Perhaps meditate on the possible parallels of these two carnelian events to your relationships. You can still do the cleansing, and maybe now, even more fully cleanse the energies in order to start with a clean slate. I hope this helps! Thanks for sharing

  4. Anjali Ramdhonee says:

    Hello. I just bought a blood stone healing wand… I was extra careful and told everyone to be careful while handling and they did. However, when I picked it up today, it accidentally banged against my singing bowl and the tip is damaged :/ Can It still be used for healing? or it is better to get it repaireD?

    • Genn says:

      Hello Anjali! If there is no danger of being cut with the broken end it should be fine to work with. It depends on your purpose and what you do in a healing session. (For instance, if the edge is sharp and you use it in a massaging way it might not be safe). There is no problem (diminished power) with the wand, in and of itself, just because it is chipped. Perhaps a part of you knew it was going to chip (maybe the crystal communicated this to you) because you were “extra careful” and told everyone to be careful, yet it chipped anyway. I hope this helps!

  5. Malka says:

    Hi, my 10 years old son came back from a school trip today. He bought me a rose quarts necklace. I was so happy and showed it off all day. Now I took it off and it fell on the floor and broke in Half… what does it mean? Is this a bad sign? Should I keep the broken stone or is that bad luck?

    • Genn says:

      Hello Malka! I’m sorry to hear that your stone necklace broke. That is never fun to have our crystals break, for whatever the reason. To begin, I don’t feel keeping a broken stone in any way is bad luck. I would keep the piece if I were you. However, you need to determine if you are uncomfortable with keeping it. Reassess based on your feelings about keeping it. My sense is that you should keep it. The message to me is that even when something is broken, it is still worthy and lovable (not something to be shunned or tossed out). Our “broken” parts should be honored as much as our “whole” parts. To determine if there is a message in the breaking, look at the meaning of rose quartz (love). Have you suffered recent heartbreak or pain regarding love? Perhaps the crystal is telling you to be mindful of your “heartbreak” and honor and love the broken part of you as much as the part that is still “attached”. This is just a possibility. That being said, sometimes things just break and there is no hidden meaning (for example when Freud said “sometimes a cigar is just a cigar”). I hope this has helped a little bit!

  6. Rose says:

    I just purchased a peridot pendant and placed it on my gold chain. I went to a friends place and there were a lot of people. One girl was admiring the stone and when I placed my hand over it it dropped off the small copper bed it was attached to. What does that mean. The stone itself did not break.

    • Genn says:

      Hey Rose! Sorry to hear about your necklace. It could have any number of meanings (or none at all). It could mean the stone doesn’t want to be in copper. Or, conversely, it could be as simple as the fact that the stone was not attached properly in the first place. The only way to know if it is a message is to check in with yourself, the circumstance in which it happened and if you sense that it was a message. If the circumstance brings a neutral feeling around the happening, there probably is no message there and it was a simple case of faulty craftsmanship. If the circumstance has some charge to it or feeling beyond the breaking of the setting, then that might be something you need to explore. I hope this helps!

  7. Saahil says:

    Hi, I have a rose quartz crystal with me for nearly a month now. But a few days ago my hand suffered a sharp slit since I accidently placed my hand on its more brittle side while sleeping. Although it didn’t bleed a lot but still would you still recommend me to keep it ? Is it a bad sign ? What should I do with it ? I started keeping it with me once my ex left.

    Please suggest !

    • Genn says:

      Hey Saahil! No, I don’t see it as a bad sign or omen at all. The sense I get is that the crystal is letting you know that your wounds are still very fresh (the emotions can be sharp or biting) and to be mindful of being kind to yourself and patient with your healing and to be sure you are taking care of yourself. Does this resonate with you? I certainly don’t see it as a bad omen or reason to stop working with your rose quartz. Thanks so much for your question!

  8. Sydney Collier says:

    This post is really helping me. I dropped a sodalite I just got and it broke. I really got upset and still am, but this post nailed it for me. It’s a pretty clean break can you glue a crystal or does it mess up its vibration?

    • Genn says:

      Hey Sydney! Sorry to hear you broke your crystal, that is never fun. Glad this post helped. I have glued crystal and not glued crystal. It really depends on you and the crystal. You might ask it if it wants to be glued back together and see what you get.

  9. Yumie says:

    I have a beautiful black phantom crystal pendant, got it when i was 22 years old and started wearing it again after 7 years 2019, it rusted because of the metal around it, i tried removing the rust and accidentally made a minor crack

    I panicked, felt soo bad, telling myself how could i be soo careless and afraid that it would weaken the crystal, but after reading this i feel better now

    • Genn says:

      Hey Yumie~ It is never a good feeling when our crystals break, but when they do, it is helpful to see it from a different perspective. I’m glad you found some comfort in the blog post.

  10. Cherie Campbell says:

    Thank you for this post. Today I broke a beautiful, perfect, smoky quartz wand. The tip broke and shattered into dust. I felt horrible and held her, appologizing for my clumsiness. Then I looked for what to do and what it means. Several sources said it can be a bad omen, but I reject that. Many said it’s not your fault, give her a rest and continue to work with her. This post speaks to the nature of crystals and the love they share. I now can hold her and appreciate the empathy she embodies.

    • Genn says:

      Hey Cherie! Thanks for posting! As you know from reading, I too reject the notion that it is a bad omen. I’m glad you found this site and others, also rejecting this idea. Sending extra love to your smoky as she ramps up the empathy and as you direct the empathy and love to your own broken parts.

  11. Patty says:

    I’m so happy I found your words! I have an Angelite that has been through so much with me, and I absolutely adore her! But for some reason I just keep dropping her and she falls on the same spot, chipping a bit more every time. And every time my heart breaks more, and I apologize profusely like I just stepped on a puppy’s tail. “Oh honey I’m so sorry!! Are you okay??” Yesterday I was showing a friend her chips and saying how I feel so awful that I keep dropping her, and the words just came out of my mouth, “But she always forgives me, and right away.” Exactly!! The lesson she continues to give me is that of forgiveness. She’s an angel! I had never considered the empathy that then emanates, though, but that makes so much sense. Thanks for your post! 🙂

  12. Vanessa says:

    Hi! I am what some people term an incarnated angel and one of my major flaws is an inability to accept or tolerate imperfection. My crystal dropping and breaking is actually helping me to deal with and learn to accept imperfection. I am learning to appreciate it all the more because of it’s new imperfections.

    • Genn says:

      This is a hard lesson, isn’t it, Vanessa! It’s nice to have our crystal friends to remind us that our flaws sometimes are what makes us more lovable. Thanks for your comment!

  13. ROBYN M.SILVER says:

    I dropped my crystal wand right after I purchased it .I took it out of the bag and it fell out of my hand and broke in half. At first I was angry and disappointed in myself, but after reading what you wrote I do feel better about breaking them.I picked them up and held them and now I have two wands to work with. They are still beautiful.

  14. Peaches says:

    Thank you for sharing this. I broke my rose quartz into two pieces and just about died. I always carried it in my bra and sleep with it under my pillow. So to read this makes all the sense in the world to me. Just last night i dreamth that my waistbeads broke and scattered on the floor. Today my rose quartz fell on the floor and broke. Hummmm maybe a strong message. I was also wondering if i was a empath I believe i know my answer. Thanks again…

    • Genn says:

      It IS so difficult when these things happen, but like you said, for a reason. I’m glad this post spoke to you and hopefully gives you a little peace about it happening and maybe some insight as to what the lesson is. Thanks for your comment!

  15. flowerpower56 says:

    I recently received a crystal from a friend who passed away last year. I was cleaning it and dropped and broke it. I feel terrible. I am hoping I can at least glue it back together. Your comments did make me feel a little better. thank You!

  16. Gabi says:

    This might be called serendipity … I found your blog cause I was searching for an answer to a broken crystal question:) Yours was the first one I read and found an answer that really speaks to me and would like to share.
    I have a number of stones – malachite, hematite, cornaline, a little smokey quartz and a rose quartz point – in a bowl in my meditation corner. Today I felt off all throughout this morning, some sort of stressed feeling and upset.I was going through one of those days when negative self talk about physical appearance goes on. The inner critic was full on:)
    It got me really upset and full of frustration and that frustration manifested in an abrupt, angry mouvement that caused my bowl to flip and the crystals and gems to drop.
    Of all the crystal and gems that dropped the one that happened to be chipped was the rose quartz…
    Rose quartz being about self love, unconditional love for one self and others, compassion .

    You say
    “Do you need to practice forgiveness of self? Come to terms with imperfections? Learn to accept perceived flaws?”

    YES, YES AND YES. The chipped rose quartz is a clear indication that I do. And I will. I will start meditation with my chipped rose quartz, asking for forgiveness and loving light.
    Your feedback will be appreciated.
    Thank you for this post,

    • Genn says:

      WOW! Thanks for sharing, Gabi! Your rose quartz was really talking to you, wasn’t it!!!?? Your meditation with it sounds like a beautiful plan. Now you can look at your crystal, (that you love), and remind yourself to love YOURSELF with all your chips, dings, and perceived flaws. You are perfect, just as you are. Here’s another blog post that you might find helpful on Empathic crystals (which your rose quartz is now). Often the lesson of Empathic crystals is to remember to be compassionate and empathetic to our OWN chips, dings and perceived flaws and to remember we are still beautiful, whole, lovable and worthy. Thank you again, so much, for sharing!

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    • Genn says:

      Thanks for sharing, Redwolf <3

      • Nina C. says:

        Just about an hour ago I grabbed my significant other’s necklace with a beautiful crystal pendant that was a gift from his aunt to help ward off negative energy (she gave me a green beaded bracelet) for us.
        We bought wear our gifts since returning from our visit abroad a few months ago. And so much has been happening in our lives together that he has felt that he needs his necklace gift with him almost always. He is extremely careful with it and hangs it on the wall above us while we sleep. Maybe coincidence there was a nail that happens to be there right above our heads.

        Well, just right now!!! The necklace was on top of our bed and I thought to sit in the chair next to the bed. I thought to put it up where he usually hangs it and once I did that another thought said I should put it back before I drop it and it breaks. At that same moment I dropped it!! And it is broken. I am we are so heartbroken 😭. I NEVER touch it! Not one time!!! The only time I touched it was just now!! I felt and he felt like someone died!!!

        (Long story of our situation. We came back to the states and my family issues happened and we are now staying with a long time friend of mine. She is actually at this very moment going through a horrible time in her life and it is so sad. What was supposed to be a short stay has turned into 2 months. )

        I found your article and this is the only thing that has brought the fear inside my whole body to not feel like it is on fire.

        What does this mean?!! Please help…

        • Genn says:

          Hey Nina! I apologize for the delay in responding, I thought I responded to this before but it seems I didn’t? Anyway, I am sorry to hear about the trouble you guys are having which seems to be echoed with your gemstone issue. Perhaps the two of you are feeling broken regarding your current situation and this has been echoed in manifesting the breaking of your talisman. I can only suggest you re-read the post and see if anything resonates for you as to why this might have occurred (if there is a message for you). Anything I say is pure conjecture on my part. I still maintain that broken crystal does not hold animosity or blame in the breaking and the best way to remedy is to discover for yourself what it might mean to you and whether there is a message in the breaking. I hope your situation improves for you soon. Thanks for sending your question!

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